Category Archives: Depression

Start a Commonplace Book Today!

It’s a new year and a new start. I am determined to keep my blog fresh going forward.

I have always collected sayings, interesting tidbits, phrases, riddles etc. I used to fill up scraps of paper or write things on sticky notes, but I didn’t have a proper system. Then I started a commonplace book and I have never looked back.

People have always had systems for storing information and recording excerpts from their reading material, and over the years these storage systems evolved into the commonplace book. Commonplace books grew in popularity from the time of the Renaissance until the late nineteenth century. In fact, it is probably true to say they have never gone out of fashion. Many noteable people kept commonplace books including John Milton, Thomas Jefferson, Seneca, Samuel Pepys, Lord Byron, Ralph Waldo Emmerson and W H Auden.

A commonplace book is a great way of storing all the great pieces of information you come across every day. How often have you said: “I wish I could remember where I saw this.” or “I came across something about this the other day but I can’t remember what it was.” Why not get started today? You can use a physical notebook or a digital store to do your commonplacing, or perhaps a mixture of both. I prefer to use a notebook and pen because I find the creative juices flow more readily this way, but go with whatever is easier for you.

Many people believe that writing is a good way of relieving stress. You may feel sad, lonely, worried, depressed or just bored! However you feel, write about it. The very act of putting your feelings down on paper will help ease your anxiety and eventually you may start to feel calmer. Sometimes it is difficult to know exactly why you are feeling bad, and that’s ok. Just write it down – write about your confusion and the fact you don’t even know how you feel. The act of writing can be very therapeutic and it may even help untangle your thoughts and quieten your emotions. As you start to feel less fraught, you may be able to make sense of your pent up emotions. Whatever the result, it will be interesting to go back and read your words one day!

As you read, have your commonplace book handy and jot down any interesting pieces of writing so you can refer to them later. You can also jot down interesting bits of conversation, or items you hear on the TV or radio. Make a note of your own observations, or any personal notes you want to recall later. Some people have a number of commonplace books which are categorised according to subject matter. For example, you could keep one book for personal thoughts, another for recipes and food ideas, and another for quotations or anything else that grabs your attention. Whatever piques your interest and whatever system suits you, get writing today!

SAD – Seasonal Affective Disorder

Many of you will have heard of SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and I am sure a number of you will also be affected by it. In the majority of SAD cases, the symptoms are triggered by the change in season – usually when the summer ends and we move towards the darker nights of autumn & winter. People with SAD will start to feel lethargic and moody and they may experience feelings of worthlessness and guilt. This change in behaviour and mood is distinctly marked by the change in seasons each year.

For those with the more-common winter-onset SAD, depression can set in for the duration of the winter months. They experience a loss of interest in activities they usually enjoy and find it difficult to sleep at night, which leads to low energy levels and sluggishness. They may crave foods high in carbohydrates and this can lead to weight gain which only adds to their depression.

A less common form of SAD is summer-onset SAD which occurs as the summer starts approaching. The symptoms are much the same as for winter-onset SAD except that sufferers tend to get anxious and agitated during the summer months.

It is important to get help if the symptoms are severe and causing problems. For winter-onset SAD the treatment often includes light therapy whereby you are exposed to very bright light from a light box for an hour or so each morning. Medication such as antidepressants may also help both forms of SAD and you should discuss this with your GP. Other forms of treatment include psychotherapy, relaxation classes, meditation, regular exercise and music/art therapy.

Do not suffer in silence. Talk to your GP. This is important because many mental health problems share similar symptoms with SAD, so you need a proper diagnosis before any treatment is provided. With the proper help and support you will be able to develop coping skills which will help alleviate many of the symptoms of SAD.

How Jehovah’s Witness Elders Deal with Suicidal People

I came across a video on YouTube which was an instructional video for Jehovah’s Witness elders (an elder is a bit like a priest or vicar). It is called “Jehovah’s Witnesses – elders training video 1″ and I assume it was secretly leaked by a member of their organisation. Apparently, these videos are for elders’ eyes only…

I will keep this short, but in a nutshell a grieving woman (her husband died a year ago) tells two elders that she is depressed and constantly thinking about “…turning the car on in the garage and going to sleep”. So this is a woman who is not only seriously depressed over the loss of her husband, she is also contemplating suicide and has even considered the method she will use to end her life.

Now, at this point, alarm bells should be ringing. A responsible person would tell this lady to seek medical assistance. This woman needs urgent help – she needs to be referred to a doctor or emergency services as soon as possible. It would also be a good idea to go with her to make sure she gets the help she needs and to ensure she is safe. So what do the elders tell her?

First they lecture her about the perseverance of Job in the Bible. They tell her that he had it much worse and had far more to cope with than she does but he managed to keep his integrity. Job’s ten children were killed, he lost his business and all his possessions, but he got over it, so she needs to get over it! They do not recommend that she seek medical help. Instead they tell her that her emotional trauma is nothing more than ‘wild thoughts’ and even ‘immoral thoughts’ and her grief is ‘an emotional setback’. They instruct her to repeat a mantra throughout the day (I am an integrity keeper, I am an integrity keeper, I am an integrity keeper) and tell her to memorise some Bible verses. She must not grieve or dwell on her loss or show any emotion at all as this will be evidence of her lack of faith in Jehovah. After this clumsy and negligent ‘advice’, the woman thanks them and offers them some cookies which seems to indicate she is completely ‘over it’ as the head elder smiles, looks to the heavens and says “Thank you Jehovah”.

I know these people are actors, but this is a training video to instruct Jehovah’s Witness elders on how to deal with suicidal people. As such, it is a travesty! Elders have no medical training and no experience or expertise in dealing with emotionally depressed and suicidal people. It is extremely irresponsible and dangerous to allow these people to advise those with mental health issues. Inexperienced and inept amateurs should not be dispensing medical advice. I am so angry that I have referred this video to my local MP and have also sent a link to the Health Secretary, Jeremy Hunt.

I sincerely hope that no harm will come to any suicidal person because Jehovah’s Witness elders fail to act appropriately and responsibly.

Life is transient – don’t waste it!

It may be because I am getting older, and because we seem to have lost so many famous people so far this year (David Bowie, Alan Rickman, Victoria Wood, Muhammad Ali, Gene Wilder, Ronnie Corbett, Caroline Aherne, Terry Wogan…..I could go on and on), that I find myself looking back to my childhood. It’s usual to look back with rose-coloured glasses because everything was so simple then – no stressful job, family problemsmoney worries or aches and pains. In some ways it seems so long ago, like another era and a different person. But it also reminds me of just how fleeting life is – we are here one minute and gone the next, and we never know when the game is up.

With this in mind, it is such a shame to waste one’s life in a drunken or drug-fuelled stupor. How many people will wake up this morning hung over, feeling sick, remorseful, nervous, panicky…..all because of drink and drugs. Life is a gift and it shouldn’t be squandered. There are so many possibilities, so much to learn, so many places to visit and people to meet. Don’t throw it away. You may feel you need alcohol or drugs inside you to face life’s problems, but they will still be there when you sober up. And every time you give in to your substance of choice, old problems are not dealt with and pile up, and new problems come along and jump to the top of the pile! Add to this the feelings of depression because alcohol and drugs are depressants and make you depressed.

Talk to any ex-addict and they will tell you the same thing – that life is so much better without alcohol or drugs. You don’t need them to relax and have a good time – you will enjoy yourself so much more without them. Just imagine waking up, knowing exactly what you did and said yesterday, having no regrets because you didn’t do anything stupid, outrageous or downright dangerous. It is so good to have a clear head, to be able to concentrate, to face problems and deal with them head on rather than blocking them out with drink or drugs.

If any of this rings a bell with you, reach out and get help. You can break free from alcohol and drugs. It isn’t easy, but it has got to be easier than beating yourself up every day.

European study shows Ireland among highest for child suicide rates

According to a report from the European Child Safety Alliance, Ireland has the region’s highest rate of suicide among young women. There are 2.09 cases in every 100,000 deaths among females under the age of 19. As if this isn’t disturbing enough, Ireland also has the second highest rate of suicides among boys and young men, at 5.12 cases per 100,000 deaths.

All Resources have just launched a new book ‘Suicide is Never the Answer’. The main aim of the book is to provide people with information to help them prevent a suicide. It is important to remember that, when dealing with a suicidal person, the immediate suicidal impulse will pass even though the depressed state may linger for weeks or months or even longer. So if you can be there at that moment when a young person feels all hope is lost, if you can talk to them for just one minute, the suicidal impulse will pass. You will have gained valuable time to get help for the young person and you will be able to put a plan in place to help them get better.

We all need to reach out to help young people in crisis. The more we know about suicide, the more we can do to prevent it.