Start a Commonplace Book Today!

It’s a new year and a new start. I am determined to keep my blog fresh going forward.

I have always collected sayings, interesting tidbits, phrases, riddles etc. I used to fill up scraps of paper or write things on sticky notes, but I didn’t have a proper system. Then I started a commonplace book and I have never looked back.

People have always had systems for storing information and recording excerpts from their reading material, and over the years these storage systems evolved into the commonplace book. Commonplace books grew in popularity from the time of the Renaissance until the late nineteenth century. In fact, it is probably true to say they have never gone out of fashion. Many noteable people kept commonplace books including John Milton, Thomas Jefferson, Seneca, Samuel Pepys, Lord Byron, Ralph Waldo Emmerson and W H Auden.

A commonplace book is a great way of storing all the great pieces of information you come across every day. How often have you said: “I wish I could remember where I saw this.” or “I came across something about this the other day but I can’t remember what it was.” Why not get started today? You can use a physical notebook or a digital store to do your commonplacing, or perhaps a mixture of both. I prefer to use a notebook and pen because I find the creative juices flow more readily this way, but go with whatever is easier for you.

Many people believe that writing is a good way of relieving stress. You may feel sad, lonely, worried, depressed or just bored! However you feel, write about it. The very act of putting your feelings down on paper will help ease your anxiety and eventually you may start to feel calmer. Sometimes it is difficult to know exactly why you are feeling bad, and that’s ok. Just write it down – write about your confusion and the fact you don’t even know how you feel. The act of writing can be very therapeutic and it may even help untangle your thoughts and quieten your emotions. As you start to feel less fraught, you may be able to make sense of your pent up emotions. Whatever the result, it will be interesting to go back and read your words one day!

As you read, have your commonplace book handy and jot down any interesting pieces of writing so you can refer to them later. You can also jot down interesting bits of conversation, or items you hear on the TV or radio. Make a note of your own observations, or any personal notes you want to recall later. Some people have a number of commonplace books which are categorised according to subject matter. For example, you could keep one book for personal thoughts, another for recipes and food ideas, and another for quotations or anything else that grabs your attention. Whatever piques your interest and whatever system suits you, get writing today!

Many pupils struggled with learning during COVID-19 lockdown

I was shocked to read that, according to a poll conducted by the Office for National Statistics, 52% of parents thought their child had struggled to continue learning during the lockdown, and 77% said that the main reason was a lack of motivation. A staggering 43% also put the blame for their child’s poor academic progress on the lack of guidance and support from schools!

I realise that these were exceptional circumstances, and the COVID-19 pandemic and resulting worldwide lockdown hit us all like a ton of bricks. But some schools managed fantastically well and their students did not experience that many adverse effects. So why did some children fare so badly?

Sadly, 64% of those in the 16-18-year bracket felt that continuing their education at home would negatively affect their future plans. Even more frightening is the effect homeschooling had on people’s wellbeing. Around 34% of women said it negatively affected their own wellbeing and 43% of parents thought homeschooling negatively affected the wellbeing of their children. Also, many parents who were in employment stated that homeschooling negatively affected their job.

When we stop to think about it, school is a relatively new phenomenon. Before schools, children were taught at home, either by parents or tutors (if they had the money) or they were sent away to study under somebody capable of training their children. Teaching our children should be a wonderful and rewarding experience, but the reality is very different. I think much of this is because parents have so many demands on their time. How can a mother or father successfully plan, draft, teach, mark and motivate their children’s schoolwork when they have very little time. Most households have two parents working – and if they are not working full time they are working part time.

I think the government should have paid a daily allowance to parents of children over a certain age – say 5 years – to encourage them to stay at home to teach their children. We had financial support for staff on furlough, support for the self-employed, business loans, tax reprieves etc – so why not financially support those trying to teach the next generation?

The Effect of COVID-19 on Young People

The coronavirus has had a devastating effect on education – from schools closed, to end-of-term tests postponed, to exams cancelled. The impact of the lock down has caused many in the education sector to voice concerns over the overall consequences of the pandemic on young people.

We currently live in a technology driven world, and some young people already experience the social isolation associated with an over-reliance on the internet and mobile devices. It is becoming evident that the increased seclusion caused by the lock down has put the mental health of many young people at risk. While we do not fully understand the damaging long-term consequences of the lock down and the lack of physical contact among young people, medical professionals are already reporting a rise in mental health problems such as anxiety, fear, loneliness and depression as a result of school closures during the pandemic.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death in young people worldwide, and it is therefore vital that we all take responsibility for caring for those around us at this difficult time. Many young people have experienced serious illness or losses connected to COVID-19 and they may need extra support and attention. In order to provide support to schools, All Resources has produced a resource pack that examines COVID-19 through a number of subjects in an honest and practical way. “After COVID-19 – Returning to Education after the Coronavirus” uses the coronavirus as a catalyst to introduce different topics and young people are encouraged to discuss their fears and concerns and recognise the impact of COVID-19 via different viewpoints and settings. It comes as a main resource pack with 8 topics including lesson plans and worksheets, or as a series of one-off lesson plans, each one covering a different subject. This a great way of ensuring all young people have the opportunity to talk about their experiences, fears and concerns in an open and supportive environment.

Bach & Handel Christmas Favourites – The Notable Works Chorus and the Waterford Concert Orchestra – St John’s Church, Waterford

On Sunday 1st December, I was privileged to attend the Notable Works presentation of ‘Bach & Handel Christmas Favourites’ at St John’s Church, Parnell Street, Waterford.

The setting at St John’s was awe-inspiring. St John’s Church was built around 1845 in a Gothic Revival style with impressive exterior and interior architecture and magnificent stained-glass windows. The acoustics were excellent and blended well with the Bach & Handel works.

The Notable Works Chorus were truly sublime and the Waterford Concert Orchestra were tremendous. The Conductor was Dr Kevin O’Carroll who should be commended for his arrangement. The professional standard of the choir and orchestra had to be heard to be believed – it was an amazing performance.

The soloists Bridget Knowles (contralto), Andrew Gavin (tenor) and Eoin Power (bass-baritone) opened the audience’s eyes and ears to the rich sound of Bach and Handel, in my mind the greatest of the Baroque composers. Their delivery varied from sonorous to delicate and graceful and the strength and talent from each one of them was superb.

I’d very much like to have the opportunity to hear the Notable Works Chorus and Waterford Concert Orchestra again and I will certainly be back to St John’s Church to examine the architecture more closely. Overall a fabulous evening – well done to all concerned!

SAD – Seasonal Affective Disorder

Many of you will have heard of SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and I am sure a number of you will also be affected by it. In the majority of SAD cases, the symptoms are triggered by the change in season – usually when the summer ends and we move towards the darker nights of autumn & winter. People with SAD will start to feel lethargic and moody and they may experience feelings of worthlessness and guilt. This change in behaviour and mood is distinctly marked by the change in seasons each year.

For those with the more-common winter-onset SAD, depression can set in for the duration of the winter months. They experience a loss of interest in activities they usually enjoy and find it difficult to sleep at night, which leads to low energy levels and sluggishness. They may crave foods high in carbohydrates and this can lead to weight gain which only adds to their depression.

A less common form of SAD is summer-onset SAD which occurs as the summer starts approaching. The symptoms are much the same as for winter-onset SAD except that sufferers tend to get anxious and agitated during the summer months.

It is important to get help if the symptoms are severe and causing problems. For winter-onset SAD the treatment often includes light therapy whereby you are exposed to very bright light from a light box for an hour or so each morning. Medication such as antidepressants may also help both forms of SAD and you should discuss this with your GP. Other forms of treatment include psychotherapy, relaxation classes, meditation, regular exercise and music/art therapy.

Do not suffer in silence. Talk to your GP. This is important because many mental health problems share similar symptoms with SAD, so you need a proper diagnosis before any treatment is provided. With the proper help and support you will be able to develop coping skills which will help alleviate many of the symptoms of SAD.

How Jehovah’s Witness Elders Deal with Suicidal People

I came across a video on YouTube which was an instructional video for Jehovah’s Witness elders (an elder is a bit like a priest or vicar). It is called “Jehovah’s Witnesses – elders training video 1″ and I assume it was secretly leaked by a member of their organisation. Apparently, these videos are for elders’ eyes only…

I will keep this short, but in a nutshell a grieving woman (her husband died a year ago) tells two elders that she is depressed and constantly thinking about “…turning the car on in the garage and going to sleep”. So this is a woman who is not only seriously depressed over the loss of her husband, she is also contemplating suicide and has even considered the method she will use to end her life.

Now, at this point, alarm bells should be ringing. A responsible person would tell this lady to seek medical assistance. This woman needs urgent help – she needs to be referred to a doctor or emergency services as soon as possible. It would also be a good idea to go with her to make sure she gets the help she needs and to ensure she is safe. So what do the elders tell her?

First they lecture her about the perseverance of Job in the Bible. They tell her that he had it much worse and had far more to cope with than she does but he managed to keep his integrity. Job’s ten children were killed, he lost his business and all his possessions, but he got over it, so she needs to get over it! They do not recommend that she seek medical help. Instead they tell her that her emotional trauma is nothing more than ‘wild thoughts’ and even ‘immoral thoughts’ and her grief is ‘an emotional setback’. They instruct her to repeat a mantra throughout the day (I am an integrity keeper, I am an integrity keeper, I am an integrity keeper) and tell her to memorise some Bible verses. She must not grieve or dwell on her loss or show any emotion at all as this will be evidence of her lack of faith in Jehovah. After this clumsy and negligent ‘advice’, the woman thanks them and offers them some cookies which seems to indicate she is completely ‘over it’ as the head elder smiles, looks to the heavens and says “Thank you Jehovah”.

I know these people are actors, but this is a training video to instruct Jehovah’s Witness elders on how to deal with suicidal people. As such, it is a travesty! Elders have no medical training and no experience or expertise in dealing with emotionally depressed and suicidal people. It is extremely irresponsible and dangerous to allow these people to advise those with mental health issues. Inexperienced and inept amateurs should not be dispensing medical advice. I am so angry that I have referred this video to my local MP and have also sent a link to the Health Secretary, Jeremy Hunt.

I sincerely hope that no harm will come to any suicidal person because Jehovah’s Witness elders fail to act appropriately and responsibly.

Life is transient – don’t waste it!

It may be because I am getting older, and because we seem to have lost so many famous people so far this year (David Bowie, Alan Rickman, Victoria Wood, Muhammad Ali, Gene Wilder, Ronnie Corbett, Caroline Aherne, Terry Wogan…..I could go on and on), that I find myself looking back to my childhood. It’s usual to look back with rose-coloured glasses because everything was so simple then – no stressful job, family problemsmoney worries or aches and pains. In some ways it seems so long ago, like another era and a different person. But it also reminds me of just how fleeting life is – we are here one minute and gone the next, and we never know when the game is up.

With this in mind, it is such a shame to waste one’s life in a drunken or drug-fuelled stupor. How many people will wake up this morning hung over, feeling sick, remorseful, nervous, panicky…..all because of drink and drugs. Life is a gift and it shouldn’t be squandered. There are so many possibilities, so much to learn, so many places to visit and people to meet. Don’t throw it away. You may feel you need alcohol or drugs inside you to face life’s problems, but they will still be there when you sober up. And every time you give in to your substance of choice, old problems are not dealt with and pile up, and new problems come along and jump to the top of the pile! Add to this the feelings of depression because alcohol and drugs are depressants and make you depressed.

Talk to any ex-addict and they will tell you the same thing – that life is so much better without alcohol or drugs. You don’t need them to relax and have a good time – you will enjoy yourself so much more without them. Just imagine waking up, knowing exactly what you did and said yesterday, having no regrets because you didn’t do anything stupid, outrageous or downright dangerous. It is so good to have a clear head, to be able to concentrate, to face problems and deal with them head on rather than blocking them out with drink or drugs.

If any of this rings a bell with you, reach out and get help. You can break free from alcohol and drugs. It isn’t easy, but it has got to be easier than beating yourself up every day.

Exam Stress

Exam season is here again, and there is no doubt that exams can reveal how well you are doing and pinpoint areas where improvements are needed. Exams are also a means of accessing further education and university, but not all people are suited to a university education. There are other avenues that can be explored such as training and apprenticeships, so you should not pin all your hopes on examination grades.

The period after exams is a bit of an anti-climax. You may feel flat and exhausted. You want to know your results but realise that you have a long wait. Feelings of dread can start to sweep over you as you contemplate the possibility of failure.

This is often a difficult time and you may feel unable to cope with the delay between examination and result. You may think you have failed and cannot face the humiliation. Now is the time to confide in family and friends as they can often help you to put things into perspective.

Too much emphasis is placed on exam grades. There are so many other assets and qualities that each of us has. Even if your grades are lower than expected, you can learn from the experience. You are not a failure. There is really no point in getting good grades through cramming, cheating or guessing. If you are confident that you did your best then you have no reason to feel a failure. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you and there is plenty of time to do re-takes, look at other courses, consider training etc.

While exams are a worthwhile part of your education they are by no means the be-all and end-all. You have many other options open to you so take advantage of them while you can.

Here are a few useful tips for successful studying:

  • Make a schedule – organise your time well in advance (perhaps months before)
  • Set yourself goals
  • Pace yourself . For every 50 minutes of study take a 5 minute break. When you return, spend 5 minutes seeing how much you can recall and jot down some notes. Now have a quick revision of the material before you go on to a new section. After 3-4 hours take a longer break. Go out and visit friends. Play some music. Take the dog for a walk. You will then feel refreshed enough to continue your studies
  • Have a quiet place to study which is free from distractions. Turn the TV or radio off
  • Make use of your public library for peaceful studying periods or research
  • Get together with friends to test each other
  • Do not try to cram in everything the week before (or even worse – the night before!)
  • Above all – stick with it. Stay calm and talk to your parents and teachers about any worries you have

European study shows Ireland among highest for child suicide rates

According to a report from the European Child Safety Alliance, Ireland has the region’s highest rate of suicide among young women. There are 2.09 cases in every 100,000 deaths among females under the age of 19. As if this isn’t disturbing enough, Ireland also has the second highest rate of suicides among boys and young men, at 5.12 cases per 100,000 deaths.

All Resources have just launched a new book ‘Suicide is Never the Answer’. The main aim of the book is to provide people with information to help them prevent a suicide. It is important to remember that, when dealing with a suicidal person, the immediate suicidal impulse will pass even though the depressed state may linger for weeks or months or even longer. So if you can be there at that moment when a young person feels all hope is lost, if you can talk to them for just one minute, the suicidal impulse will pass. You will have gained valuable time to get help for the young person and you will be able to put a plan in place to help them get better.

We all need to reach out to help young people in crisis. The more we know about suicide, the more we can do to prevent it.

Arthur’s Day

Arthur’s Day began in Ireland in 2009 to mark 250 years since Arthur Guinness first set up the Guinness brewery in Dublin. According to the Guinness company, Arthur’s Day is a ‘remarkable celebration of those who make things happen!’ It is marketed as a salute to Ireland and all things Irish. In fact, it is simply a clever marketing ploy to encourage people to drink!

It is a fact that drinking is part of the Irish culture. According to the Irish Health Research Board, 85% of Irish people think that the current level of alcohol consumption in Ireland is too high. In fact, there is growing critisism of Arthur’s Day and many people in Ireland are opposed to it. There is no doubt that Guinness is one of Ireland’s biggest exports, and the Guinness Brewery is Ireland’s most popular tourist destination. But there is something distasteful about a drinks giant like Diageo promoting its own alcoholic beverage in this way, particularly in light of the following statistics from Alcohol Ireland:

  • 8 deaths per month in Ireland are due to alcohol
  • 1,200 cases of cancer result from alcohol each year in Ireland
  • One in four deaths of young men aged 15-39 in Ireland is due to alcohol
  • One in three road crash deaths in Ireland is alcohol-related

So, isn’t it time Diageo seriously examined alcohol abuse in Ireland and the misery it causes? Maybe then they would think twice about hosting Arthur’s Day next year.

All Resources has produced a resource pack for schools and youth organisations on the dangers of alcohol. Called ‘Dealing with Addiction’, the pack provides essential information about drinking, smoking & drugs and encourages young people to make informed choices.